MY Son of 17 started learning to drive back in June 2012 after he tuned 17 in the February before, No nothing odd in that, but my son was born with major heart defect which needed surgery to correct and ever since has suffered with various forms of Learning disabilities. His Main Problems are Short Term Memory Delay, reading and writing well below his peers about 10 years behind, processing skills and sometime cordination too,. well his dad insisted he learned in a manual car, which i can understand why but never felt he could cope with that, despite being able to learn to drive a semi automatic tractor and a digger and a forklift the last to were at his dads place of work and dad showed him, the Tractor was at college.. Driving a car is much different on the roads so much going on,, well after 4 months of weekly lessons we have had to change to a Automatic Car and a new driving instructor who teaches special needs adults with all forms of disabilites, which to be fair is a friends husband but in a different county but his happy to take my Oldest.. But i sit here worrying if he every will grasp everything thats goinf on,, other road users, padestrians, ect with his processing problems… So i have to sit back and allow him to see for himself or to give him the chance.. If he does Pass then that sets a whole new Challenge, me at least changing my manual car for a auto is not going to be easy on benefits and his dads not happy about him driving a automatic whats so ever and cant understand why he cant learn in manual after he does the auto test,.. the Point is his dad does not understand his sons disabilities, Never has and never will.. Insurance will be £177 on top of mine month too,, which his dad may pay but so far is he better get a Job, which wont be easy when his at college 34 days a week with a disability and Jobs not too great…. Althouh this does stress me out I will not let it get to me until such times as its needed.. Well Better go now.. will write again soon
I know you may think That Christmas is a long way off, and yes in a way it is, but its still something i have to think about.. Its coming up to a year since me and the kids dad decided to seperated but for 2 months we were in seperate rooms well me on the sofa for about six weeks until a spare bed arrived for him to sleep in, but we mainly stayed in the same house to get through Christmas cause the kids dad wanted everyone else (appart from kids as they were told and my parents) to feel everything was Normal… Well it was the hardest Christmas ever, the odd people who arrived Guessed things were wrong just by the fact his stuff were now in a bedroom that we never had before and the atmosphere was tense at times too, He was continually on his mobile texting god knows who, and I was cooking christmas dinner for my Parents who to be fair didn’t really want to come over but they did for the sake of their Grand Children… Roll on 12 months and i fine myself worrying about what to do this Christmas.. I know its going to be very different But i need to keep strong for the kids.. the Plan is that we are going to my parents for Christmas day,, but as yet the kids dad my ex wont discuss Christmas,, mind you its a time he has never ever liked since we go together… The Oldest has already said that he wont go near his dad at Christmas as he his old enough to know how things will be or where they will go (to his dads Ex brother in laws) but he wants to stay with me, fair enough his 17, but the youngest is different he seems to want he dad to come here for Christmas, but I for one will not Play happy families with a Man who didn’t want me in the end and pushed me out of the home he built for us and the kids.. I am not bitter but it was my home for 21 years.. I know had a brief relationship with a man who seemed very nice when i left but turned out not too be a good thing at all….. I have the added bonus of getting my kids presents which will not be much at all compared to what they were used to with their dad, only cause the dad gave me some money as i was not on Benefits like i am now,, yes i do work a bit, but with everything else its tight, yes the bills and shopping, fuel the normal stuff but also the oldest is having driving lessons at the moment, as well as Child Tax Credit are clawing money back too as they overpaid me when i was with the kids dad.. one the Plus side I dont have many people to buy for now as everyone who was assoiciated with me and ex are not talking to me.. either they dont know how to as there is no connection anymore,, how ever sad it is I am in a new life now and i need to live it for me and my kids, and I feel I am doing the best i can..